Monday, February 2, 2015

Keeping Marriage Stronger (part 1)

I am done with my article regarding 'Finding a Perfect Match". Thank you to all your support and continuously reading my simple article. I am starting to write another episode of my blog about "Love and Marriage". 

Every single person, regardless of the gender, we are hoping, dreaming and praying to have a successful marriage and build our own family someday.
Sir Ben & Ma'am Linda, holiday in Anantara, Maldives

Feeling grateful to present first article about "Love and Marriage" with the permission of these lovely couple to be featured on this blog. 

Twenty-six years been married and blessed with son and a daughter. 
According to Ma'am Linda, they got married without believing God. In short, they are unbelievers. They had a simple wedding ceremony held in Medan, North Sumatra part of Indonesia.

Four months, after giving birth of their first child, an incident happened. That was the time she seeks for God. It was really a wake-up call for her. One of her friends, told her to visit the Church. She came to know there is God, that God really exists and it changed her behavior. 


I asked her, what is the major key of their 26 years of marriage. She replied, "God always protect our marriage and kids, good health and be always with HIM."


As her final message, "With the grace of God, we can have a long-lasting marriage and make God be the center of our lives". She quipped, "My husband is more loving to God. He loves God more than me."  We both smile. 

Below is an article which I summarized from the original script of Mr. Greg Laurie, which was published last February 2002.

How to keep your Marriage Strong:

First, turn on the light. Light helps you to see things accurately. The Bible says, "Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path" (Psalm 119:105). You must bring your marriage into the light of Scripture.

Second, wake up. Awake from spiritual lethargy, and recognize that you cannot sleepwalk through life and marriage. Place a firewall around your hearts, and do everything that you can to protect yourselves.

Third, walk circumspectly. Ephesians 3:15 says, "See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise." Walk circumspectly and recognize that good marriages don't just happen as a result of mere chance or dumb luck. They are the result of work, commitment, and attention to detail.


Fourth, redeem the time (Ephesians 5:16). The word redeem means to make the most of your time.
Fifth, be filled with the Spirit. Anyone who honestly looks at these principles to which God calls us would say they are hard to follow. That's why you need to be filled with the Spirit. You cannot be what God wants you to be without the help of His Spirit.

The Bible is true, and your marriage will not only survive, but also flourish, as you follow the principles in it. 








Monday, January 5, 2015

Two Hearts bind as One




“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colors seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn't exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” 

Sunday, December 28, 2014

Finding Perfect Match (the finale)

 "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." (1 Corinthians 13:4-7 New International Version)
The biggest key to a man's waking up to the fact that you're "the one for him" - that you fulfill all his needs just by BEING YOU - is your ability to connect with a man through his heart. And the key to connecting with a man's heart is operating day-to-day, moment-by-moment from YOUR heart.
This is my final article about "Finding Perfect Match". I summarized the "10 Ways to Know if The Relationship is Right".  (source: http://twinkythots.wordpress.com/2006/06/22/10-ways-to-know-if-the-relationship-is-right/)
  1. You feel good about yourself and your world.- A good relationship makes you feel great. It should fill in your “gaps” and make you feel whole.
  2. You look forward to spending time together.-  If your relationship is “right”, you’ll enjoy spending quality time together – even when it’s quiet.
  3. You respect your partner, and “talk him or her up.” - There’s no reason you have to agree with everything your partner says or thinks either. However, you should RESPECT them for it – right or wrong.
  4. You are really interested in what he or she thinks. - Along with respect, you’ll find that you are interested in your partner’s thoughts on different things.
  5. You are aware of, but ignore their quirks.
  6. Problems don’t make you think about breaking up. - People that have good, solid relationships see disagreements as a chance to learn more about their lover, and to get closer.
  7. You aren't scared about losing him or her. - Once you start investing your feelings in a relationship you risk being hurt. However, if you dwell on the possibility of being hurt, you can’t really enjoy the relationship.
  8. You’re together “just because.” - If you’re together just because you both want to be, you've got a good reason to stay together.
  9. You appreciate other attractive people, but aren’t interested in them.
  10. You are in love.
 I am very grateful  with the help of my guests for being a part of this final episode of my article. Without them, I won't be able to finish my write-up. 


Photos taken in Anantara Veli&Dhigu, Maldives

Honeymooners from Peru
3yrs in-relationship before settling down


Sept. 17, 2013,  when Mr. Carlos proposed marriage during their trip in Buenos Aires, Argentina

May 22, 2012- officially as Boyfriend & Girlfriend
Nov. 22, 2014- the memorable date when Mr. Carlos & Ms. Muriel tied a knot in Peru







Photos taken in Taj Exotica, Maldives

Mr. Reed & Ms. Renata totally in-loved

Monday, December 22, 2014

Light of one's life


Not all couples are blessed with a child. Some parents adopt kids for them to be fruitful in terms of parenthood. This is another article of mine and the experienced I felt capturing the moment of these kids.
I am so thankful with my guests, despite the warm weather, they still managed to smile, laugh and crack jokes during the session.

This poem I originally created and photos taken from different Island Resort in Maldives.




The feeling of satisfaction when I carry you
The sound of your laughter melts my heart.
I remember the time, you came into my world,
Mixed emotion filled every corner of the room.



 Feeling proud of myself,
The essence of being a woman.
The pain I've been through, disappeared!
Upon hearing your very first cry.


 Tears running down my cheek,
As you lay down on my chest.
A promise that binds us together, my child.
I hold you tight through ups and downs.








Soon these arms will be old and tired,
And no longer be with you, when my time comes.
Don't forget the arms that molded you,
of what you are now.
This is only my legacy, which you will be reminded of me.






Sunday, December 7, 2014

My Points of View: Living in Paradise, Living a Dream

My Points of View: Living in Paradise, Living a Dream: Crystal clear, vast area of bodies of water, rich in colorful coral reefs and sea creatures. Mixed nationalities come to visit Maldives ...

Living in Paradise, Living a Dream

Crystal clear, vast area of bodies of water, rich in colorful coral reefs and sea creatures. Mixed nationalities come to visit Maldives for their holiday trip.
Experience diving in a deep blue water, chanting with the family of Whales, taking a glimpse of the dolphins, having an eye to eye contact with the turtles, and indulging with other water sports activities.

Almost 14 months working in different Island Resorts in Maldives, is like living in a paradise. Away from noise and air pollution, staying in a calm cozy place will really make you relax and forget all your problems.

Embracing the breeze, touching the pristine white sand, walking near the shore, and the wind blowing my hair, is like a scene in the movie.

I was high school, when I came to know about Maldives, studying map of Asia and geographic location of the different countries. I was amazed about the picture displayed on a magazine telling a short caption about Maldives and other top tourist's destination in the world.

Maldives is one of the places I want to visit. Since I started schooling, I really want to travel and mingle with other people. My Mom usually says, I am like a reporter. I think, this is my natural way of reaching out to other people. Once I pop a question, the conversation follows. I am learning from other people as well, no matter the age gap is.

Apparently, I am enjoying my stay here (sometimes I get bored). I spend my time productively indulging myself in other activities at the resort, and doing my own blog during my leisure time.

To be away from home, is really difficult to handle. No one will comfort you, especially when you were down, when you got sick, when everyone despises you, worst is when someone try to pull you down because of envy and crab mentality. People come and go. We may meet true friends and at the same time false one.

There is no perfect company to work with, that is how I picture it. The company will be a perfect place to be, if only there is teamwork, fair treatment among associates, give and take relationship between employee and employer.

I do believe that employee is the backbone of the company. What will be the role of the employer and the status of the company if all the staffs are not working well?

We all know how influence “Money” is. You can buy everything in the world, except happiness and good reputation.
I do value my work, because this is my bread and butter.

Despite all the negative things I experienced working in a company here in Maldives, I still see a light of positiveness.


Below are my landscape shots taken in different Island Resorts:
 Anantara Veli

Sunset facing water villas in Anantara Veli
 
Low Tide in Anantara Veli

Facing Angsana Ihuru

Sunset with the pelican, Angsana Velavaru

Angsana Velavaru


Sunset facing the lagoon villas, Jumeirah Vittaveli

Fascinated of the formation of clouds

Kayaking in Komandoo Island resort

half portion of the Kuredu Island Resort

Island hopping
water villas in Taj Exotica

Arrival Jetty in Taj Exotica

In-Ocean Villa of Angsana Velavaru

Banyan Tree Vabbinfaru

Paradise Resort
Water Villas in Anantara Dhigu

Velassaru Resort



Thursday, November 13, 2014

Letting Go






Time to say goodbye,
Vanish this bizarre feeling,
Accepting my defeat
Ready to accept the real thing.



I am ready to conquer my fate,
My journey for the next race.
Enough of  this illusion,
Shaking my head, stop this imagination.






Tired of believing the unreal circumstances,
Taking the risk, hardly to achieve.
As I look up unto the sky,
Rainbow appears at the northeast side.





Having peace of mind,
Out from stressful life.
Thankful for this awakening,
Replenishing a weary soul.
















Photographs by: "Yours truly"
Text originally created by me.
Location: Banyan Tree Vabbinfaru, Angsana Ihuru-Maldives

Love and Happiness


Loving your own family


1. Happy families...know who they are.

When your family agrees on its core values — and consistently lives by those standards — you'll build a stronger family identity and reduce conflict.
Holiday Trip in Maldives. Family from Spain

2. Happy families...lean on others.

3. Happy families...bounce back.

Truly happy families have the resiliency to face life's challenges and stay strong. 

4. Happy families...breathe.

Families do better when they have plenty of laid-back time together.  the best way to build happy family connections is simply to enjoy one another spontaneously.
source: http://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/building-happy-family


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You can make your life happier. It is a matter of choice. It is your attitude that makes you feel happy or unhappy. Recently, I was on vacation, a bonding moment with my loved-ones and friends. 
I can't explain the feeling of coming back home after 3 years away from home (due to work). 

We meet various situations every day, and some of them may not contribute to happiness. However, we can choose to keep thinking about the unhappy events, and we can choose to refuse to think about them, and instead, think about and relish the happy moments.
All of us go through various situations and circumstances, but we do not have to let them influence our reactions and feelings.
If we let outer events influence our moods, we become their slaves. We lose our freedom. We let our happiness be determined by outer forces. On the other hand, we can free ourselves from outer influences. We can choose to be happy, and we can do a lot to add happiness to our lives.
Life has ups and downs.  There are frustrations, embarrassment, grievances, and grudges. On the contrary, when positive vibes envelope us, there is satisfaction, joy, contentment  and peace of mind.
As human beings, we are sensitive when it comes to loved-ones and friends. We become over-protective. 




Below are photos taken in Maldives
My guests from France, Russia, China, Japan, India, and Spain.