Friday, July 3, 2015

My Points of View: Love Unconditionally

My Points of View: Love Unconditionally: In some articles I wrote regarding “Love & Relationship”, I included blogs and reviews from other writers. These blogs help me a...

Love Unconditionally


In some articles I wrote regarding “Love & Relationship”, I included blogs and reviews from other writers.
These blogs help me a lot in terms of information, an awakening into reality, and serve as a driving force for me to write.
I am so grateful to all my guests featured in every article I published, for giving me permission to include their magical moments in Maldives.

Here is an introduction I quoted from Author Barrie Davenport

Lasting relationships require unconditional love.
Unconditional love in a relationship begins with oneself. To set the foundation for a lasting, healthy relationship, you must first have a strong sense of self-esteem and self-confidence. It also means you can stand on your own two feet as an individual without requiring a romantic partner to define you or complete you. You can be together with someone and still remain fully yourself — as a person you like and respect.”

Offering unconditional love to yourself means you are able to view yourself as lovable and worthy — in spite of any perceived flaws or past mistakes.
Newly wed couple from Republic of China
Within the relationship itself, you are able to love the other person as they are in their essence. If you have fallen in love with this person and want to build a lasting relationship with them, then you must view them as a unique individual not as an extension of yourself.”

They may be different from you in many ways. They may view the world differently and have habits that you don’t share, but you can embrace these differences because they are part of this unique person you love.”

You begin with the essentials of self-love,  mutual love and respect. You see and embrace the core of the other, their innate personality and worldview. You acknowledge the influences of their upbringing, life experiences, and ingrained behaviors.”
Met during high school days


Photos taken in Maldives: 


It's just simply saying: opposite attracts, likes repel.


2 and 1/2 years into relationship before tying a knot





tied a knot on Jan. 3rd, 2015


- See more at: http://liveboldandbloom.com/11/relationships/unconditional-love-the-key-to-lasting-relationships

Sunday, June 21, 2015

The Essence of Fatherhood

Not every man can be a good father and at the same time a loving husband. Being a responsible father brings out the inner qualities of fatherhood.

The first time, I asked my brother how's being a father and husband. He can't explain the feeling entering another phase of his life. A single word he only said to me, "Happy".
                                     

Being a first time father is quite terrifying but rewarding experience. The moment you witness the hardship of your wife in that delivery room, the first time you gonna hear the cry of your first born child,  and the time that everyone will congratulate you.

I could hardly imagine how bachelors changed their lifestyle once they became a father figure.
Building up a successful family is a tough job for every parent. It involves commitment, self-sacrifice, integrity, and unconditional love. 

Responsible fathers are concerned with the well-being of their children, and their desire is to see their children succeed in all areas of life.

Throwback photo (*_^)
I just remember what our parents often tell to us, "Always pray to God". Our father thinks for the future, even though we are all grown ups and have our own careers, still he never fails to give us advice. I am so grateful for having such great parents. We simply live a simple life. We are happy and contented what we have.
Moreover, I featured some of my guests on this very special day. 

These great fathers enjoying their quality time with their loved-ones.



Father & Son tandem from China


with loving wife

Lovely Sofia with Father

Happy Family

Cute handsome son from Czech Republic
Wife is 8 months preggy

Congratulations! The couple just got married last May 16, 2015

Thursday, June 4, 2015

Keeping Marriage Stronger (finale)

Before anything else, I would like to express my gratitude to all readers, viewers and guests who were featured on this blog.

Thank you for the trust for letting me write this article and the positive response through email.
As a writer, I have this mood swing whether I want to start another topic or not. When information feeds my exhausted brain, I am being reinvigorate. My mind starts to imagine fairy tales, couple walking hand in hand under the  moonlight, and the sparkle of  love and kisses.

Tied a knot on July 24, 2004 in HongKong

Whenever I ask couples, if they want to be a part of my blog, they often ask if I am married. Before they jump into another question, I answered them with a smile, that their unique love story will be an inspiration for me and to all readers of my blog.

I will not disclose their love stories. The trials they have been to, from the time of dating until they settled down. By merely reading the glitters into their eyes, and genuine smile. I can say, they are happily contented and loved.


Furthermore, I included here my research and summarized according to my understanding  about "The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work....Strengthening the Marital Friendship" by John Gottmann, 1999

20 years happily married.  

1. Stay in touch with each other- have time to talk each day, even for simple things.
2. Show appreciation- Saying thanks or giving compliments.
3. Show kindness- kind words or kind actions.
4 years dating before settling down
4.Give the gift of understanding- For someone to be understood, he must know how to understand first.

5. Learn your spouse's 'love language"
6. Make time for fun
7. Balance being a parent with being a partner- Parenthood can bring some special demands and challenges to the marriage.


"A solid marital friendship is a buffer against the problems that arise in marriage. No marriage will ever be totally free of differences, and setting out to "fix" everything we're unhappy about is an impossible task. The more we're focused on problems, the more problems we'll see. Couples are happier when they can focus on the good in their marriage and in their spouse. When the friendship is good, it's easier to do that, And when our friendship is solid and we are happy in the marriage, differences and problems don't matter as much." (by  Thomas R. Lee, Ph.D., 2001)




Blessed with 2 teenage daughters

10 years happily married


25 years been married and counting

Their sweet message with each other, "Always be together with love and understanding"





Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Keeping Marriage Stronger (part 3)


It took me more than two months to finish this third article which tackles about "Successful Married Life".
After the success of previous one, I switch to another topic just to add  spice to my blog.

A single writer, who is inspired creating ideas through photographs, waiting for  special someone to complete my own love story. Through the years I am writing articles about love, relationship, and marriage I still don't give up my faith and believe that true love waits.

I am wholeheartedly thankful to Ma'am. Ekaterina and Sir Aleksandr with their lovely sweet daughter, Sofia for giving me a chance to write my third article.

  

The Maiorova Family, with good humble heart, managed to plaster their biggest smile and patiently follow the poses I wanted them to do in spite of  hot and humid weather.

This coming  29th of July, marks their 10th wedding anniversary (and still counting!)

I and Ma'am Ekaterina burst into laughter making high five together when I said July is my (………), then she answered back, same but on June.



The conversation never ends here. I just don't capture pictures for them to remember. But the moments we have shared during the photo shoot are worth for me to remember.












Below is the article of the author Hari Singh Kinth: "WHAT MAKES MARRIAGE SUCCESSFUL"

            "There are so many factors or things which are important to make married life successful. Some of them are on the part of each spouse itself and some are on the part of their family members, friends and relatives. The positive things should be done and implemented by all of them and negative things should be avoided.
The most important positive things which are necessary to be done by the spouses are:-
- Mutual understanding:
- Mutual trust:
- Mutual respect:
- Mutual loyalty and honesty:
- Adjustment:
- Love:  Love should not be produced and influenced by any kind of attraction only like physical, economical, etc. as it may be in the case of romantic love. Romantic love builds false expectations, therefore the love which is not grown with trust and positive understanding cannot be the root cause of making such an important relation like successful marriage."

Message from the couple: "Despite the great difference in age, we clearly find a common language for 10 years. The fruit of our love- Sofia. We are happy to raise our little family together."
talented smart little girl, applies her skill in synchronize swimming by making this split



She missed the snow in Russia (^_^)

Super model

Like Mother, like daughter


Here are other photos taken in In-Ocean Villas, Mainland Beach side of Angsana Velavaru

    









the fruit of their love- Sofia
A simple gift I received with full of meanings from Sofia








Thursday, May 7, 2015

My Points of View: The Wedding Dream

My Points of View: The Wedding Dream:                                                                                   Every girl's dream to walk down the aisle...

The Wedding Dream

                                                                                 



Every girl's dream to walk down the aisle,  
Making her own fairy tale                              

The smooth silky white long dress,
Embroidered the symbolism of purity.







The veil which symbolizes coyness and humility 

While her angelic face, reflecting  pure energy.
The burning flame of love can see through her eyes
Sparkling with  rainbow colors.



Happiness radiates, blissful feeling
The story to be unfold to million viewers.
By accepting God's precious gift,
As she enters the stage of matrimony.



                   Long journey for two hearts bind as one.
                         Keeping promises, the unbreakable vows.
     Married life can be tricky
   You may win or lose.




This is a forever commitment,
Not to be taken for granted.
A groom without a bride,
Is like a car without engine.



God is the center of everything,
The ultimate director, the executive producer.
The script turns to reality,
Blessed with His grace and love unconditionally.









Wednesday, April 15, 2015

My Points of View: Finding your Better-half

My Points of View: Finding your Better-half: This is another chapter of my blog about  "Love and Relationship".  I asked some  couples I met if I could feature their love st...

Finding your Better-half

This is another chapter of my blog about  "Love and Relationship".  I asked some  couples I met if I could feature their love story. Others were curious, excited and delighted to share. I was being asked if I were already married. I humbly say the truth. The right guy will come at the right time.  


I am writing this article to inspire single women and bachelors out there. Even though our biological clock is ticking (just kidding) we can still find and  meet our better-half someday by God's grace.   

Tied a knot on April 2015
A pair of couple inspired me regarding religion. Husband is a Sikh while the wife is devoted Christian. I asked them how they manage it despite of having different beliefs. The couple smiled at me and in unison they replied, " by respecting each other's religion".

Second pair, dating for eight and a half year before settling down. They were best of friends during their younger years and eventually were destined to be "Husband and Wife".

One question popped out of my mind, "How do you know when the person you're dating is the 'one', meaning, the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?" (well I never tell those words to my guests)


This question is often asked by people who have been dating for a while, and sometimes even  by people who are already married. The truth is you can never be too sure; you meet someone, you fall in love, and you feel like that person is your everything, but sometimes it doesn't work out well.


tied a knot on Aug. 30, 2014 - Church wedding
Sept. 6, 2014- Sikh wedding

One thing I know for sure. Marrying or committing to someone will not change him or her. The thing I like to ask is what if he or she never changes, will you still want to spend the rest of your life with this person?

I do believe that some people come into our lives for a moment, some for a season and some for a lifetime. The mistake that is often made is we try to make a moment or a season person fit into a lifetime person. This will never work.

I believe strongly that each person who crosses our path in an intimate way is someone from whom we have a lesson to learn. Value the lesson and when the time is right, allow that person to exit your life. Stop trying to hold on to someone who is ready to move down the road.

The couple wished for long-lasting relationship with Happiness, Peace, Love and Respect

Attempting to hold on to someone who is already gone, mentally or physically, only provides suffering and heartache for both of you. Always remember that an ending is always a beginning. You simply have to reframe your relationship. When relationships end, don’t look for where to place the blame. Understand that it has run its course, you have been shown the important lessons and now this person must leave your life to allow for the next phase to begin. Embrace it. Learn from it.


2 and 1/2 years into relationship before settling down


I just want to add this article of Clar Worley Sproul (http://womenofspirit.com/)
" The one thing you want going into a union as colossal as marriage is the assurance that God has brought you together. Think about it. If you have no doubts that God Himself has pulled off bringing you to your man, then you'll always have peace in the struggle of cohabiting and becoming one. And how do you know God is orchestrating things?"

7 signs that He's the One

  1. You are not having to strive to make things work. - Go read Ephesians 5:22-30.
  2. His mission in life resonates with yours.- Know your purpose here on Earth.
  3. Your union is bigger than you are. If God is in your life, then your marriage should also have a spiritual dimension to it. (2 Corinthians 6:14 and 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8).
  4. He's your emotional peer.
  5. He sees you for who you really are. 
  6. You see tangible evidence that God is blessing your union.
  7. You feel as lucky being with him as he does with you. 



The couple final inspiring words, "Live a happy fulfilled life with great companion"







other source includes:
(Author Kim Olver- http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/How_to_Know_if_He_She_is_The_One.html)