Wednesday, April 15, 2015

My Points of View: Finding your Better-half

My Points of View: Finding your Better-half: This is another chapter of my blog about  "Love and Relationship".  I asked some  couples I met if I could feature their love st...

Finding your Better-half

This is another chapter of my blog about  "Love and Relationship".  I asked some  couples I met if I could feature their love story. Others were curious, excited and delighted to share. I was being asked if I were already married. I humbly say the truth. The right guy will come at the right time.  

I am writing this article to inspire single women and bachelors out there. Even though our biological clock is ticking (just kidding) we can still find and  meet our better-half someday by God's grace.   

Tied a knot on April 2015
A pair of couple inspired me regarding religion. Husband is a Sikh while the wife is devoted Christian. I asked them how they manage it despite of having different beliefs. The couple smiled at me and in unison they replied, " by respecting each other's religion".

Second pair, dating for eight and a half year before settling down. They were best of friends during their younger years and eventually were destined to be "Husband and Wife".

One question popped out of my mind, "How do you know when the person you're dating is the 'one', meaning, the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?" (well I never tell those words to my guests)

This question is often asked by people who have been dating for a while, and sometimes even  by people who are already married. The truth is you can never be too sure; you meet someone, you fall in love, and you feel like that person is your everything, but sometimes it doesn't work out well.

tied a knot on Aug. 30, 2014 - Church wedding
Sept. 6, 2014- Sikh wedding

One thing I know for sure. Marrying or committing to someone will not change him or her. The thing I like to ask is what if he or she never changes, will you still want to spend the rest of your life with this person?

I do believe that some people come into our lives for a moment, some for a season and some for a lifetime. The mistake that is often made is we try to make a moment or a season person fit into a lifetime person. This will never work.

I believe strongly that each person who crosses our path in an intimate way is someone from whom we have a lesson to learn. Value the lesson and when the time is right, allow that person to exit your life. Stop trying to hold on to someone who is ready to move down the road.

The couple wished for long-lasting relationship with Happiness, Peace, Love and Respect

Attempting to hold on to someone who is already gone, mentally or physically, only provides suffering and heartache for both of you. Always remember that an ending is always a beginning. You simply have to reframe your relationship. When relationships end, don’t look for where to place the blame. Understand that it has run its course, you have been shown the important lessons and now this person must leave your life to allow for the next phase to begin. Embrace it. Learn from it.

2 and 1/2 years into relationship before settling down

I just want to add this article of Clar Worley Sproul (
" The one thing you want going into a union as colossal as marriage is the assurance that God has brought you together. Think about it. If you have no doubts that God Himself has pulled off bringing you to your man, then you'll always have peace in the struggle of cohabiting and becoming one. And how do you know God is orchestrating things?"

7 signs that He's the One

  1. You are not having to strive to make things work. - Go read Ephesians 5:22-30.
  2. His mission in life resonates with yours.- Know your purpose here on Earth.
  3. Your union is bigger than you are. If God is in your life, then your marriage should also have a spiritual dimension to it. (2 Corinthians 6:14 and 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8).
  4. He's your emotional peer.
  5. He sees you for who you really are. 
  6. You see tangible evidence that God is blessing your union.
  7. You feel as lucky being with him as he does with you. 

The couple final inspiring words, "Live a happy fulfilled life with great companion"

other source includes:
(Author Kim Olver-

Friday, March 6, 2015

My Points of View: Keeping the Marriage stronger (part 2)

My Points of View: Keeping the Marriage stronger (part 2): This is the continuation of my article about "Love and Marriage". I am inspired to write another one after my successful blog ...

Keeping the Marriage stronger (part 2)

This is the continuation of my article about "Love and Marriage". I am inspired to write another one after my successful blog regarding "Finding a Perfect Match" and first published article that tackles marriage.

In the different societies of different countries, there may be different concepts of marriage due to their different traditions, customs and laws. Marriage is a democratic decision taken by a couple to live together and have long relationship in a democratic way with some commitments which are necessary to bring them closer to each other.

Nowadays, percentage of Divorce and Annulment is getting higher and some couples no longer value "The Vows", they have promised during the day of their wedding. 
The famous line, "For better or worse…..Till death do us part....." will only be statement from one generation to another if  "separation" is only the answer instead of reconciliation. Truly, nobody is perfect.  But only two matured people can handle tough situation
if their relationship is on the rocks.

On the other hand,  building a relationship between two person needs time, effort, emotions- "love", mutual understanding, respect and trust.

Let me introduced my very special guests from Bornholm, Denmark  who tied a knot last  September 6, 2014 in a historical building named Osterlars Kirke.

Niels & Susanne met through Danish dating website

A love at first sight

With some effort and creativity, you can keep your spouse as your best friend for life!

P. S. Thank you to these lovely couple, who grant permission that their love story being featured on this article.

Monday, February 2, 2015

Keeping Marriage Stronger (part 1)

I am done with my article regarding 'Finding a Perfect Match". Thank you to all your support and continuously reading my simple article. I am starting to write another episode of my blog about "Love and Marriage". 

Every single person, regardless of the gender, we are hoping, dreaming and praying to have a successful marriage and build our own family someday.
Sir Ben & Ma'am Linda, holiday in Anantara, Maldives

Feeling grateful to present first article about "Love and Marriage" with the permission of these lovely couple to be featured on this blog. 

Twenty-six years been married and blessed with son and a daughter. 
According to Ma'am Linda, they got married without believing God. In short, they are unbelievers. They had a simple wedding ceremony held in Medan, North Sumatra part of Indonesia.

Four months, after giving birth of their first child, an incident happened. That was the time she seeks for God. It was really a wake-up call for her. One of her friends, told her to visit the Church. She came to know there is God, that God really exists and it changed her behavior. 

I asked her, what is the major key of their 26 years of marriage. She replied, "God always protect our marriage and kids, good health and be always with HIM."

As her final message, "With the grace of God, we can have a long-lasting marriage and make God be the center of our lives". She quipped, "My husband is more loving to God. He loves God more than me."  We both smile. 

Below is an article which I summarized from the original script of Mr. Greg Laurie, which was published last February 2002.

How to keep your Marriage Strong:

First, turn on the light. Light helps you to see things accurately. The Bible says, "Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path" (Psalm 119:105). You must bring your marriage into the light of Scripture.

Second, wake up. Awake from spiritual lethargy, and recognize that you cannot sleepwalk through life and marriage. Place a firewall around your hearts, and do everything that you can to protect yourselves.

Third, walk circumspectly. Ephesians 3:15 says, "See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise." Walk circumspectly and recognize that good marriages don't just happen as a result of mere chance or dumb luck. They are the result of work, commitment, and attention to detail.

Fourth, redeem the time (Ephesians 5:16). The word redeem means to make the most of your time.
Fifth, be filled with the Spirit. Anyone who honestly looks at these principles to which God calls us would say they are hard to follow. That's why you need to be filled with the Spirit. You cannot be what God wants you to be without the help of His Spirit.

The Bible is true, and your marriage will not only survive, but also flourish, as you follow the principles in it. 

Monday, January 5, 2015

Two Hearts bind as One

“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colors seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn't exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” 

Sunday, December 28, 2014

Finding Perfect Match (the finale)

 "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." (1 Corinthians 13:4-7 New International Version)
The biggest key to a man's waking up to the fact that you're "the one for him" - that you fulfill all his needs just by BEING YOU - is your ability to connect with a man through his heart. And the key to connecting with a man's heart is operating day-to-day, moment-by-moment from YOUR heart.
This is my final article about "Finding Perfect Match". I summarized the "10 Ways to Know if The Relationship is Right".  (source:
  1. You feel good about yourself and your world.- A good relationship makes you feel great. It should fill in your “gaps” and make you feel whole.
  2. You look forward to spending time together.-  If your relationship is “right”, you’ll enjoy spending quality time together – even when it’s quiet.
  3. You respect your partner, and “talk him or her up.” - There’s no reason you have to agree with everything your partner says or thinks either. However, you should RESPECT them for it – right or wrong.
  4. You are really interested in what he or she thinks. - Along with respect, you’ll find that you are interested in your partner’s thoughts on different things.
  5. You are aware of, but ignore their quirks.
  6. Problems don’t make you think about breaking up. - People that have good, solid relationships see disagreements as a chance to learn more about their lover, and to get closer.
  7. You aren't scared about losing him or her. - Once you start investing your feelings in a relationship you risk being hurt. However, if you dwell on the possibility of being hurt, you can’t really enjoy the relationship.
  8. You’re together “just because.” - If you’re together just because you both want to be, you've got a good reason to stay together.
  9. You appreciate other attractive people, but aren’t interested in them.
  10. You are in love.
 I am very grateful  with the help of my guests for being a part of this final episode of my article. Without them, I won't be able to finish my write-up. 

Photos taken in Anantara Veli&Dhigu, Maldives

Honeymooners from Peru
3yrs in-relationship before settling down

Sept. 17, 2013,  when Mr. Carlos proposed marriage during their trip in Buenos Aires, Argentina

May 22, 2012- officially as Boyfriend & Girlfriend
Nov. 22, 2014- the memorable date when Mr. Carlos & Ms. Muriel tied a knot in Peru

Photos taken in Taj Exotica, Maldives

Mr. Reed & Ms. Renata totally in-loved

Monday, December 22, 2014

Light of one's life

Not all couples are blessed with a child. Some parents adopt kids for them to be fruitful in terms of parenthood. This is another article of mine and the experienced I felt capturing the moment of these kids.
I am so thankful with my guests, despite the warm weather, they still managed to smile, laugh and crack jokes during the session.

This poem I originally created and photos taken from different Island Resort in Maldives.

The feeling of satisfaction when I carry you
The sound of your laughter melts my heart.
I remember the time, you came into my world,
Mixed emotion filled every corner of the room.

 Feeling proud of myself,
The essence of being a woman.
The pain I've been through, disappeared!
Upon hearing your very first cry.

 Tears running down my cheek,
As you lay down on my chest.
A promise that binds us together, my child.
I hold you tight through ups and downs.

Soon these arms will be old and tired,
And no longer be with you, when my time comes.
Don't forget the arms that molded you,
of what you are now.
This is only my legacy, which you will be reminded of me.

Sunday, December 7, 2014

My Points of View: Living in Paradise, Living a Dream

My Points of View: Living in Paradise, Living a Dream: Crystal clear, vast area of bodies of water, rich in colorful coral reefs and sea creatures. Mixed nationalities come to visit Maldives ...

Living in Paradise, Living a Dream

Crystal clear, vast area of bodies of water, rich in colorful coral reefs and sea creatures. Mixed nationalities come to visit Maldives for their holiday trip.
Experience diving in a deep blue water, chanting with the family of Whales, taking a glimpse of the dolphins, having an eye to eye contact with the turtles, and indulging with other water sports activities.

Almost 14 months working in different Island Resorts in Maldives, is like living in a paradise. Away from noise and air pollution, staying in a calm cozy place will really make you relax and forget all your problems.

Embracing the breeze, touching the pristine white sand, walking near the shore, and the wind blowing my hair, is like a scene in the movie.

I was high school, when I came to know about Maldives, studying map of Asia and geographic location of the different countries. I was amazed about the picture displayed on a magazine telling a short caption about Maldives and other top tourist's destination in the world.

Maldives is one of the places I want to visit. Since I started schooling, I really want to travel and mingle with other people. My Mom usually says, I am like a reporter. I think, this is my natural way of reaching out to other people. Once I pop a question, the conversation follows. I am learning from other people as well, no matter the age gap is.

Apparently, I am enjoying my stay here (sometimes I get bored). I spend my time productively indulging myself in other activities at the resort, and doing my own blog during my leisure time.

To be away from home, is really difficult to handle. No one will comfort you, especially when you were down, when you got sick, when everyone despises you, worst is when someone try to pull you down because of envy and crab mentality. People come and go. We may meet true friends and at the same time false one.

There is no perfect company to work with, that is how I picture it. The company will be a perfect place to be, if only there is teamwork, fair treatment among associates, give and take relationship between employee and employer.

I do believe that employee is the backbone of the company. What will be the role of the employer and the status of the company if all the staffs are not working well?

We all know how influence “Money” is. You can buy everything in the world, except happiness and good reputation.
I do value my work, because this is my bread and butter.

Despite all the negative things I experienced working in a company here in Maldives, I still see a light of positiveness.

Below are my landscape shots taken in different Island Resorts:
 Anantara Veli

Sunset facing water villas in Anantara Veli
Low Tide in Anantara Veli

Facing Angsana Ihuru

Sunset with the pelican, Angsana Velavaru

Angsana Velavaru

Sunset facing the lagoon villas, Jumeirah Vittaveli

Fascinated of the formation of clouds

Kayaking in Komandoo Island resort

half portion of the Kuredu Island Resort

Island hopping
water villas in Taj Exotica

Arrival Jetty in Taj Exotica

In-Ocean Villa of Angsana Velavaru

Banyan Tree Vabbinfaru

Paradise Resort
Water Villas in Anantara Dhigu

Velassaru Resort