Tuesday, October 4, 2016

My Points of View: Strengthening Couple Relationship

My Points of View: Strengthening Couple Relationship: I am back to write an article about love and relationship. From Bali with love, I am ready to face my computer and tap the keyboard agai...

Strengthening Couple Relationship

I am back to write an article about love and relationship.
From Bali with love, I am ready to face my computer and tap the keyboard again.
Thank you to all my followers and readers  who are following my blog. I wholeheartedly extend my thanks  to my special guests who gave me permission to feature their love message and photos on this article.

When you are with the "One", you feel happy, contented, secured,  and loved. How do you strengthen your relationship whether in a long distance or even you are together?

"my happiness is to stay beside of you"
The couple is like a sculptor in the construction and shaping of their marriage. 
The sculptor may create several approximations before creating one that will "work."
The couple can likewise recreate, re-frame, or renew a relationship, but it is a difficult venture. The sculpting is compounded in marriage because there are two persons with two different perceptions of the relationship.

There are two sets of needs to be considered and two sets of expectations which are involved. It is possible for two people of good will to discuss their future possibilities together, and to reconcile differences that arise. It is also possible for a couple to realize a greater amount of their marriage potential.

Marriage ought to foster the growth of authentic love between man and woman. This love should evolve as a mixture of greater humanness between the partners (also called friendship) and a meaningful sexual relationship, based on respect, trust and compassion. This deep and meaningful love is devoted to the welfare of each other. (source: http://strongermarriage.org/htm/married/strengthening-the-couple-relationship/)

Components of satisfying marriage.
1. TRUST- built on mutual respect and acceptance of differences.

2. COMMITMENT- you commit yourself and take responsibility

3. SKILLS- both partners be skillful at understanding others, expressing needs, listening to each other, wise decision making, negotiating and managing conflicts and having meaningful communication. Both partners should also know their responsibility like in household chores and parenting.

4. CARING- being supportive of each individual's growth and personal interest. Caring for 

"we feel blessed beyond measure. Thanks Jesus"

5. RECIPROCITY- helping each other to fulfill individual roles. Exchanging positive rewards.

6. EFFORT- in any relationship, effort is part of it. Taking time to work on your marriage. 

7. EXPECTATIONS- try to be realistic. Don't try to change your partner just to meet your expectation. 

" all the best in their future of married life"

"amore che dura per tutta la vita"

"when you find true love, cherish and nurture your love for each other
And it will keep you happy."

"Let  there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow."- Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

Thursday, June 9, 2016

Challenge of a Long Distance Relationship

More and more young couples are struggling with launching two separate careers at the same time that they are launching a relationship. Frequently, couples in this situation quote “absence makes the heart grow fonder” as a way of reassuring themselves and each other that their love will sustain them over the difficulties of distance and time.

Couples in a long distance relationship face: Communication problems, Psychological and Relationship problems.
1. Communication Problems- communication is the important ingredient in all relationships.
  - When couple lives in different country and time zone.
 - Discrepancy over mode of communication
 - Difference in "primary love languages
 -Dependence on technology

2. Relationship Problems
 - Possibility of growing apart
 -  The challenge of dependence
 -Lack of physical interaction
 -Absence of tangible support
 -Issues blown out of proportion

3. Psychological Problem

What can a couple do to preserve their love and relationship over the miles?
1.Both members of the couple are committed to the commitment.
2.Both members keep their partners visible to the people around them, as well as to themselves.
3.The arrangement meets the needs of both people.
4. The arrangement is within each partner's physical "intimacy zone".
5. Both people are focused on their careers when they are working and on each other when they are together. 
6. They consider carefully whether they have what it takes to add a "third career" (child-rearing) to the mix.

Prayer is a strong weapon to a weakening relationship. Put God as a center of your relationship plus patience, trust, endurance, a strong sense of commitment, and healthy communication between couple is key to tackle the problems and challenges of a long distance relationship.

Photos taken in Maldives
sources from Authors: Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker and Sejal Parikh

Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Touch Life

As I walk through this path, I ask myself if I am going to approach them and would ask "what keeps you looking forward in life?"  But then, I just shut my mouth and silently observe them.

As I went back home, I search again my favorite inspirational article from "TinyBuddha.com"
I would like to share on my personal blog the said article.

Why we should look forward to more of each day? "Looking forward to even the smallest parts of your day can't only make the day more enjoyable, but can also improve your outlook on life, help you appreciate the things you have, keep you from getting stressed out, and help you have better relationships."

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

Rising Dubai

After two years, I'm back in Dubai again. Site-seeing with these high-rising infrastructures and on-going construction of new buildings.

The 158th General Assembly of the Bureau International des Expositions (BIE) in Paris has officially confirmed Dubai as the Host City of the next World Exposition in 2020.
(source: http://expo2020-dubai.blogspot.ae/)

Photos taken near Burj Khalifa, different Metro Stations