More and
more young couples are struggling with launching two separate careers at the
same time that they are launching a relationship. Frequently, couples in this
situation quote “absence makes the heart grow fonder” as a way of reassuring
themselves and each other that their love will sustain them over the
difficulties of distance and time.
Couples in
a long distance relationship face: Communication problems, Psychological and
Relationship problems.
1.
Communication Problems- communication is the important ingredient in all
relationships.
- When couple lives in different country and
time zone.
- Discrepancy over mode of communication
-
Difference in "primary love languages
-Dependence
on technology
2.
Relationship Problems
- Possibility of growing apart
- The challenge of dependence
-Lack of
physical interaction
-Absence
of tangible support
-Issues
blown out of proportion
3.
Psychological Problem
-Loneliness
-Depression
-Anxiety
-Insecurity
-Uncertainty
What
can a couple do to preserve their love and relationship over the miles?
1.Both
members of the couple are committed to the commitment.
2.Both
members keep their partners visible to the people around them, as well as to
themselves.
3.The arrangement meets the needs of both people.
4. The arrangement is within each partner's physical "intimacy zone".
5. Both people are focused on their careers when they are working and on each other when they are together.
6. They consider carefully whether they have what it takes to add a "third career" (child-rearing) to the mix.
Prayer is
a strong weapon to a weakening relationship. Put God as a center of your
relationship plus patience, trust, endurance, a strong sense of commitment, and
healthy communication between couple is key to tackle the problems and
challenges of a long distance relationship.
Photos taken in Maldives
sources from Authors: Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker and Sejal Parikh
