Overcoming Discouragement and Depression

All of us are familiar with disappointment. It's when our experience do not meet our expectations. Disappointment, when  not handled properly, leads to discouragement and then to depression. Depression is a despair, hopelessness or apathy. It's when we  seem to have no energy, no vitality, and no joy. It's when we choose to isolate ourselves, sometimes, harboring thoughts of suicide. It's when we give up on life.

Negative emotions can be compared to an iceberg. Only a tenth of an iceberg can be seen above the sea level. The bigger chunk is underneath the surface. This goes the same with negative emotions in something we do not readily see.

Though I usually smile to my colleagues, close friends, and some acquaintances still a bulk of iceberg kept inside me.
I have a happy and supportive family and relatives. I have my job but still learning and acquiring more skills and knowledge.

One point in my life, I reached this age asking and searching, what is lacking? I don't want to divulge what I am looking for 'coz this is between me and God.

Other says, " There is always time in everything."
Some says "Try and try until you succeed. Wishes and prayers will be granted at the right time."
Sometimes, I asked God, "when I insist what I want; proceed to my own plan, usually it will not turn smoothly."

It hurts and I usually weep. Nobody will console me, just sit-down near the corner of my room and reflect about the situation.

I tend to compare myself to those lucky ones. Usually think pessimistic and my self-confidence is at stake.
In spite of all these failures, I am still grateful God never deserted me. He still put smile on my face to continue my battle in this game of life.

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hope i can drink to that fountain of youth...to look young fo... on Twitpic

Innocent turns to be liberated

How would you demand others to respect you, if you alone don't respect yourself?

May not all people were educated and learned. But with values and norms taught by their parents, they will put into practice and remembered throughout their existence.

On the contrary, lots of youth nowadays were liberated. Through my observation younger generations were being influenced by different factors such as: environment, peer groups, time, and media.

Environment because of different people around, you move places and encounter different cultures.

Peer groups because of the people you mingled with, you were curious to try something new and envy others how they carry themselves and face the world.

In time, as youth became matured, everyone is responsible to take every risk without thinking the consequences of it.

In media, through new innovations, they idolized others. They wanted to try and experience some thrill and excitement in part of their growing up.

I want to cite an example of this. I was roaming around Robinson Mall and SM Megamall and saw couples or sweethearts strolling and holding hand in hand. I was gazing to this young girl (as i thought so), wearing a light-fitted sleeve less top and a very short fitted maong short. The guy who is a foreigner (maybe in his late 30's or 40's) dressed-up decently.

I don't want to sound bias here. My point is, the girl should wear a more decent dress without revealing her soul and hidden parts. Besides she's not in a western country. Living in Philippines preserved moral, reputation and integrity.

I witnessed passers-by eyeing the love birds up and down, smirking, and laughing at. I felt sorry to the girl.
I don't blame others the way they judge the girl. If I have only the authority to scold the innocent one and give her an advice, right there and then, I talked to her.

I also don't blame foreigners why they looked at Filipinas as a sex-slaves, domestic wives and submissive partners.

 If we only change our image to a modest, intelligent, brave and truly respectful Filipina, the third world countries will look at us with respect and equal treatment where ever we maybe.

Chatmate turns to be a Scammer

Are you addicted with those dating websites and cam-to-cam chatting? Beware you might be the next victim of these scammers and deceitful people.

It was charged to experience as others say.

I started joining these dating sites six months ago. For a first timer encountering and meeting guys online you feel “kilig factor” whether you’re a teenager, or late twenties. You are in a cloud nine when your friend admires you or pay attention to your post messages.

On the contrary you feel upset or dismay when you like a person to be with, but he/she doesn’t.  There was one time, I met this guy from “Tagged”.  He sent message, if  I want to be friend with him. I replied and gave my YM add.

It took us more or less than three weeks getting to know each. Chat thru cam-to-cam basis. Suddenly one day, out of the blue, he asked about my contact number and address.

I was puzzled why he wants to know my other info. Hesitation and anxiously I felt. He said, he wanted to give me some gift straight from his heart before his trip to Bahamas the following day.

Behind my mind, if he was just tricking me and testing me, it’s not my lost. Besides he was just a stranger who doesn’t know my whereabouts. But in the end, I gave my other info he wanted to know.

Then he emailed me. Upon reading and internalizing every detail, there I found out there’s something wrong. The agent and contact number indicated in the email sounds deceiving. The contact number especially the country code is not a real number of UK or Bahamas. Through adrenaline rush, I immediately sent an email.

Wouldn’t you believe it? After one day I received a spam message from Him. See the logic? After sending the gift (parcel) he will be leaving for Bahamas. So a journey from UK to Bahamas takes time or perhaps day. You will be busy travelling and won’t be able to update every email you had nor surf the net.

If the parcel was genuine, he will call me before and give the very details of it. He will make sure that the contact number I gave was really mine!

So in the end, the content of his message was, he called the logistic responsible for the parcel, cancelled the transaction and bid goodbye.

Whew!!!! What a surprised. Luckily I have this presence of mind and didn’t let myself fall into his bait.