My Points of View: Finding your Better-half

My Points of View: Finding your Better-half: This is another chapter of my blog about  "Love and Relationship".  I asked some  couples I met if I could feature their love st...

Finding your Better-half

This is another chapter of my blog about  "Love and Relationship".  I asked some  couples I met if I could feature their love story. Others were curious, excited and delighted to share. I was being asked if I were already married. I humbly say the truth. The right guy will come at the right time.  

I am writing this article to inspire single women and bachelors out there. Even though our biological clock is ticking (just kidding) we can still find and  meet our better-half someday by God's grace.   

Tied a knot on April 2015

A pair of couple inspired me regarding religion. Husband is a Sikh while the wife is devoted Christian. I asked them how they manage it despite of having different beliefs. The couple smiled at me and in unison they replied, " by respecting each other's religion".

Second pair, dating for eight and a half year before settling down. They were best of friends during their younger years and eventually were destined to be "Husband and Wife".

One question popped out of my mind, "How do you know when the person you're dating is the 'one', meaning, the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?" (well I never tell those words to my guests)

This question is often asked by people who have been dating for a while, and sometimes even  by people who are already married. The truth is you can never be too sure; you meet someone, you fall in love, and you feel like that person is your everything, but sometimes it doesn't work out well.

tied a knot on Aug. 30, 2014 - Church wedding
Sept. 6, 2014- Sikh wedding

One thing I know for sure. Marrying or committing to someone will not change him or her. The thing I like to ask is what if he or she never changes, will you still want to spend the rest of your life with this person?

I do believe that some people come into our lives for a moment, some for a season and some for a lifetime. The mistake that is often made is we try to make a moment or a season person fit into a lifetime person. This will never work.

I believe strongly that each person who crosses our path in an intimate way is someone from whom we have a lesson to learn. Value the lesson and when the time is right, allow that person to exit your life. Stop trying to hold on to someone who is ready to move down the road.

The couple wished for long-lasting relationship with Happiness, Peace, Love and Respect

Attempting to hold on to someone who is already gone, mentally or physically, only provides suffering and heartache for both of you. Always remember that an ending is always a beginning. You simply have to reframe your relationship. When relationships end, don’t look for where to place the blame. Understand that it has run its course, you have been shown the important lessons and now this person must leave your life to allow for the next phase to begin. Embrace it. Learn from it.

2 and 1/2 years into relationship before settling down

I just want to add this article of Clar Worley Sproul (http://womenofspirit.com/)

" The one thing you want going into a union as colossal as marriage is the assurance that God has brought you together. Think about it. If you have no doubts that God Himself has pulled off bringing you to your man, then you'll always have peace in the struggle of cohabiting and becoming one. And how do you know God is orchestrating things?"

7 signs that He's the One

1. You are not having to strive to make things work. - Go read Ephesians 5:22-30.
2. His mission in life resonates with yours.- Know your purpose here on Earth.
3. Your union is bigger than you are. If God is in your life, then your marriage should also have a spiritual dimension to it. (2 Corinthians 6:14 and 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8).
4. He's your emotional peer.
5. He sees you for who you really are. 
6. You see tangible evidence that God is blessing your union.
7. You feel as lucky being with him as he does with you. 

The couple final inspiring words, "Live a happy fulfilled life with great companion"

other source includes:
(Author Kim Olver- http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/How_to_Know_if_He_She_is_The_One.html)