Love and Relationship

Loving someone doesn’t need any reason. It doesn’t matter the age gap. It doesn’t matter the distance. Doesn’t matter how she or he looks. Doesn’t matter the way she or he moves or speaks.  What matter is, how you love each other, how do you need each other and how happy you are when you are together. That’s love…..NO REASON, NO DEFINITION, and definitely NO END.

But, is it really instant LOVE, when you meet someone else only on Internet? During 80’s and early 90’s, sending love letter is the ultimate medium to show someone’s affection towards opposite sex. Love letters with kisses and flowers waiting on your desk or sometimes chocolates with greeting cards.

Searching for someone and committing your self, is not a game. You invest time, effort and emotions just to make the relationship successful.

There are no perfect relationships. It’s up to both parties, how they handle and manage it nearly to perfection.

I am fond of reading someone’s love story. I like watching romance, action and tragic movies which involved relationship and family.

Sometimes, I want to portray a character on a certain movie, to know how it really feels when you are in such situation being seen on that big screen.

I want to share this article out of curiosity.  I met a foreign guy only in the Internet. We became friends up to now. Though, we haven’t met face to face personally, still the friendship is there. This guy met a Filipina young girl on a Dating Facebook page. They had only short period relationship with this girl. My friend really loves the girl so much. He has even plan in visiting Philippines someday. But all his dreams and plans unfulfilled for just one mistake of this Filipina girl.

Everyone doesn’t want to wait forever. We want assurances and faithfulness despite how million miles apart with each other.

Long distance, third party, infidelity, lies, temptations, and broken promises are sometimes or usually the main causes of failed relationship.  And one of those is the main reason of their break-up.

Indulging yourself to play on fire is a no-no to a relationship. With all the innovations nowadays, our main focus to re-establish a damaged or ruined relationship being diverted in meeting opposite sex through Cyber-cam. 

Relationship is like a crystal. Handle it with care. Once it is broken, no matter how eagerness you want to put it back all the broken pieces, marks are still visible

When your heart fills with anger and  betrayal, trust and love fades.

A successful relationship is accepting the indifference, open-minded partners, level of maturity, nourish the relationship everyday, trust and love each other.

 

I want to end this short article of mine, a quote sent by my close friend.

“Never play on someone who showed you what love means. Because, only when it’s too late that you’ll realize……you’ve lost something you would never ever have again.”

Searching for a Soul Mate through "Dating Website?"

 Trying your luck? Waiting for a magic arrow from Mr. Cupid? What is the magic word?"

What comes to your mind when I say “Filipino-Cupid, Military.com, Match.com, Tagged.com, Face book Chat, Yahoo Chat, Date in Asia, Christian Dating?”

Do you honestly set your true profile picture and status? Are you sincerely true to yourself when meeting different people on the Internet?

Do you have sharp mind in distinguishing a “USER” or an “HONEST SAMARITAN?”  We become stupid sometimes and blame ourselves in the end.  We are influenced by other people, the environment, and the trending innovations.

As I am composing this article of mine, a certain song pops-out from my mind.

“I need love, love to ease my mind

I need to find, find someone to call mine

But Mama said,

You can't hurry love

No, you just have to wait

She said love don't come easy

It's a game of give and take.”

All of us, have been through with many failed relationships, been through bitterness and suffered domestic violence.  With the influence of Cyber world, this serves as an escape goat and our outlet. We started to open ourselves to strangers just to unload the burden and get-off what is inside our heavy chests.

Maybe, some of us are envy that others met their lifetime partners via “Dating Websites.” We dream and wish too, that we can be able to find our long waiting partner.

On the other hand, have you set your standards in searching for the “REAL ONE?”

For women, we dream for Apollo or Adonis, or a guy who is tall, dark and handsome, a guy who will give us the universe, a guy who is faithful and tough who is always there to protect us.

For men, they like sexy hot babes, or simple and plain, or a model type, a head-turner brunette, or long-legged slim ladies. Some guys want a trustworthy good wife and mother, know how to handle money matters, know household chores, and a woman whom they can put in a pedestal.

I want to answer my own question.  I have my own standards and believe for an ideal man. But since, I experienced a failed relationship way back 5 years ago, I no longer believe for an ideal man. What I do believe is that, you will fall in love, to a certain guy or lady who possesses the opposite standards you set for yourself in finding a boyfriend/girlfriend. You are being blinded, and you always follow your heart, while your mind keeps on dictating the other way around.

At present, I am still waiting for somebody else to knock at my door. Of course, we always learn from our mistakes from the past. Let the past serve as my lesson, let today be a starting point, and let the future mold what and where I will be.

My Points of View: Believe in what you can't see

My Points of View: Believe in what you can't see: Another Easter Sunday for this year, and holy week ended. Tomorrow is another day, as we face the second quarter of  the year. ...

Believe in what you can't see

Another Easter Sunday for this year, and holy week ended. Tomorrow is another day, as we face the second quarter of  the year.

During at work, I met three Spanish passengers and a Yoga Instructor. What really happened was a blessing in disguise. 

One of my guests gave me a small card, smiled at me and side, "Blessed Easter Sunday." 

The excerpt of the card she gave:

"Do you believe in the existence or air, a vital part of our lives?............If oxygen didn't  exist we could not be able to survive. It's what we need to breathe. Therefore, if  you believe it exists, let me know what does it look like, what color is it, would you be able to keep it in a container?

Every day we talk......we hear our voices but we can't see our words. When we look up, we can only see the sky......If they were visible, maybe we wouldn't be able to see the sun. Even though they are things that we don't see, they exist!!

That's God, He is real, he is in every place, but, like air, you can't see Him."

When I reached home, I immediately opened my bible and read what was written on it.  I want to share this simple and meaningful scripture from the bible.

2 Cor. 5: 11-15 " We know what it means to fear the Lord, and so we try to persuade others. God knows us completely, and I hope that in your hearts you know me as well. We are not trying again to recommend ourselves to you; rather, we are trying to give you a good reason to be proud of us, so that you will be able to answer those who boast about people's appearance and not about their character. Are we really insane? It is for God's sake. Or are we sane? Then it is for your sake. We are ruled by the love of Christ, now that we recognize that one man died for everyone,  which means that they all share in His death. He died for all, so that those who live should no longer live for themselves, but only for Him who died and was raised to life for their sake."

Blessed Easter Sunday to all readers. Have faith in God no matter what happen. Think positive in life.